I have gathered information that may be helpful to some people as we mourn the loss of Basilio Quiet Montilla. This post is about taking care of yourself when terrible things happen.
Tragic events and the loss of someone you love and care about can be very stressful. The normal flow of life can be disrupted. But we can keep ourselves strong and get through by taking a few simple actions:
Where to Start
- Be patient with yourself and those around you.
- Give everyone time to cope, adapt and heal.
Taking Care of Your Body
- Get enough sleep. Eat regular, healthy meals and remain physically active.
- Avoid drinking excessively or using drugs or tobacco to help you cope. These can cause additional problems in the future.
Taking Care of Your Emotional Health
- Do things that help you recharge and feel in control of your life. Focus on your strengths and past accomplishments, and set realistic goals for the future.
- Try to remain positive and be patient with yourself.
- Make time to reflect, meditate or pray. Save some time for activities you enjoy.
Reaching Out
- Do not be afraid to express your feelings or to talk about your experiences and emotions. You may find that others are experiencing similar feelings so you can support and comfort each other.
- Do not hesitate to ask for help if you feel overwhelmed or discouraged.
- Don’t become isolated. Stay connected to friends and family.
Reducing Your Stress
- Try to stick to your daily routine as much as possible. This will give your life structure.
- Do things you find comforting such as reading, listening to music, exercising.
Managing Your Workload
- Maintain a healthy balance between work and rest.
- Take frequent breaks and give your body and mind enough time to rest and recharge.
- In trying to cope, do not let work take over your life.
- Remember to make time for your family and friends, as well as your own hobbies and interests.
— Adapted from information presented on www.nyc.gov
Mani García-Lesy is a doctoral student in Health Psychology and Clinical Science at the City University of New York. He has a Master's Degree in Psychology from Stony Brook University. Mani currently works as a psychotherapy extern at Gouverneur Healthcare Center and Lexington Mental Health Services for the Deaf. Mani specializes in researching and treating physical and mental health symptoms related to depression, anxiety, stress, and trauma.
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